Ulyana and Mira may call each other niggas when they are hanging out over a glass of wine but why post it on social media? They are no longer sharing an exchange between just the two of them they are carelessly talking to millions of people referring to something that has torn a nation apart.
Their behavior is inconsiderate, irresponsible and unacceptable.
Ulyana Sergeenko is the founder and owner of a globally recognized fashion brand. She is a designer who is an accredited member of the Fédération française de la couture, the governing body for the French fashion industry. Her Paris couture show is scheduled for today! Miroslava Duma received $50 million dollars to launch Fashion Tech Lab in 2014 to commercialize new technologies and sustainable innovation in the fashion industry. She is a global leader. WTF! What would it look like if Tim Cook posted something like this on social media?
I honestly don’t understand why this being wrong is such a difficult concept to grasp especially considering the recent onslaught of white female millennial feminist writing articles about consent.
Consent and coercion are words being thrown around by white women lately in reference to sexual assault. They are saying they are hounded by men to give in to sex. And that although they provide strong non-verbal cues and try to gently but firmly stop advancement the men persist. White women say they understand now that they were raised to believe their bodies belong to men, that they should acquiesce to men and this conditioning is why they aren’t more firm in saying no. And white women are saying it is men’s privilege in believing a woman’s body is for them that keeps men from understanding that coercion is wrong. And white women are saying they are tired of it. They write that society needs to rethink how we raise our sons and how we as a people communicate with each other. And yet white women are still confused why they shouldn’t say nigga in front of millions of people.
I am a black woman. I believe that people should be given the benefit of the doubt. I try to listen to the other side. And I sit silently, flinching, while white people explain to me why they want to say nigga to me. They tell me it’s pop culture, it’s not meant to be racist, black people say it, it’s in rap music, racism is dying, “why can’t I say it?”.
White women, you cannot coerce me, cajole, beg, or defend your use of the word. You believe that I should acquiesce and just let you violate me. My answer is no. It is time that you rethink how you raise your daughters. And it is time to rethink how you communicate with black people.
I don’t consent to your using the word nigga. It offends me. It isn’t amusing, it isn’t an endearment, it isn’t the new cool pop culture reference, your name is not Snoop Dogg, racism has not died and you can not use it. You aren’t innocent, clueless, polite, white socialites naive and unexposed to the ills in society.
You are strong boss women ready to change the world and you need to be better.
To global leaders Miroslava and Ulyana, you know what a nigga is and that means you also know about police brutality, slavery in the prison system, inequitable education opportunities for black children, inexplicable health care issues effecting black women (Serena Williams) and all of the other racist issues plaguing black Americans (who still rise).
So explain to me how the only time you speak about us is to use the word nigga.
You want people to buy your products, support you, help you rise, look to you as a role model and acknowledge your achievements – you need to be better.